Tonight I sat on my back deck doing some reading for work and our neighbor began to mow his backyard. Because of my distance and activity, and the dimming evening light, I was actually able to watch his movements rather openly without it appearing that...
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Big Family Vacations (Oblications)- I Don’t Like Them
I just got back from a long weekend trip with my extended family and I’m generally pissed off about the whole thing. Because I’m dealing with the trauma that was my entire childhood in the form of emotional neglect, I know I’m in a delicate...
Continue reading...Dear Mom and Dad – My Suppressed Anger About My Childhood
Note: I wrote this post, then per usual, let it sit for a day. I then came back to it and re-read it. I made a couple of grammar and vocabulary changes, but in general, this is the first post that I’ve never made big...
Continue reading...Long Term Effects of Parentification and CPTSD
Parentification is when a child is either expected to act like the adult or parent directly by caring for siblings or their own parents, paying bills, making meals, etc…OR by becoming the emotional caregiver for their parents. In my case, it was the latter. In...
Continue reading...Parentification Is The Source Of My Depression
I learned a new word about two weeks ago – parentification. It’s a word that has changed my life. What is parentification? In a nutshell, it’s when the roles of children and parents become reversed. It’s when a child either takes on the role as...
Continue reading...Family Is NOT The Most Important Thing
Our society loves to hammer a particular thought into our heads, and that thought is that family is the most important thing in a person’s life. We are supposed to put family above everything else. I say – bullshit. I’m so tired of every book,...
Continue reading...Burnout – Part 2 – Helpful Tips
Before I continue writing this post, it’s important for me to reiterate that I am NOT a qualified mental health professional. I’m still fighting my depression, so it’s also safe to say that I don’t have anything really figured out about how to combat it....
Continue reading...Burnout – Part 1 – A Moment of Clarity
It’s the end of February. Sometime between Thanksgiving and Christmas I started to feel pretty crappy – mentally. If you’ve read any previous posts, it’s clear that depression is a pretty common passenger in my car on this road of life so I didn’t think...
Continue reading...When To Move Out Of The House
I had a moment of revelation and apparently feel the need to share it online. When should we, as homeowners, realize when it’s time to sell our single family houses and move into duplexes, townhomes or apartments due to our age? We’ve been looking for...
Continue reading...Cancel Culture or Cancelling Ourselves?
Cancel culture. It’s a phrase that’s being used everywhere. A person says one thing and receives backlash for it and immediately the masses cry out “CANCEL CULTURE”! Like so many phrases, this one just annoys me. Probably because it is an example of how we...
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